Obese women

Jaspenelle
by Jaspenelle
Thu
28
Sep
2006
4:57pm
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10 Comments

Feeling better today. Making curry tonight to prove it to my stomach.

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I consider myself to be a pretty observant person and I am starting to notice something in life, particularily here at work. Percentage wis, obese women are more argumentative and aggressive then slender woman.

I am not attacking obese women, by far not all large woman act obnoxious – but I started noticing it after something which happened the other week. I was on the bus the other week, talking to my friend about yoga and this obese woman across the aisle from me started ripping into me, for no reason at all, other then because -I assume- I am thinner/work out. So since then I have started noticing who is bitchy towards me (and why) and it has been mostly larger woman. Why though? Usually there is no reason at all. I have no problem with them, their lifestyle choices are none of my business and yet does my lifestyle bother them?

I am left to wonder, is it because I am small waisted or are they like this to everyone? Is there maybe some medical explanation – physical discomfort leading to irritablity?

I don’t get it.

10 Comments

  1. Gesh
    Posted Thursday, September 28, 2006 at 5:36 pm | Permalink

    They are just being defensive. Having an obese woman crying gets no compassion, which is worse than an obese woman who is mean. I work for Torrid, a large woman clothing store. I get it all the time. I am a heavier woman, though proportionate. To other women larger than me I still get treated like I am some skinny bitch. I have to go around showing my fat belly so they feel less threatend by me. It’s just a mess. Fat woman are bitches because they are made fun of. SKinny women are bitches because they are hungry!

  2. Magpie_dragon
    Posted Thursday, September 28, 2006 at 5:51 pm | Permalink

    I find (being obese myself probably) that I unfairly assume that anyone skinner than me will be mean to me. These are not unfounded assumptions, but for the most part as a semi-adult (still in college grr.) I find that no one really gives a damn how much I weigh, and if they do they’re cretainly not going to let me know about it to my face. I try not to judge people like that, but its very hard. Like people who fear snakes because they may be deadly. Not all are, but some may be and it seems better to be prepared for the thing that could cause my demise (physically or emotionally) than take a chance. Usually our self esteme isn’t wonderful either. Yet again, all of this is certainly no excuse to be a cranky bitch to teh skinnies lol. So I do make an effort to be perfectly nice an civil to everyone until they give me a reason not to be :)

  3. Astraea
    Posted Thursday, September 28, 2006 at 6:28 pm | Permalink

    Crazy Jaspy! Now that you’ve mention it I’ve seen the same thing with me. Personally I think they attack because they’re jealous and probably because they think we look down on them and figure we’ll treat them harshly or something. It really is sad and looking on it now with how the world is I can see why they’d do such a thing. I just wish they’d stop judging before they actually know the person.

  4. Jaspenelle Stewart
    Posted Thursday, September 28, 2006 at 8:59 pm | Permalink

    Hey I eat like a horse! :)

    The defensive explanation is understandable, unfortunately society on a whole is not very accepting of people who do not fit the “beauty norms”. I still do think some of them acting like obnoxious children is doing nothing for people’s sterotype of them.

    Btw, saw some pics of you on your blog the other day – I think you are gorgeous.

  5. Jaspenelle Stewart
    Posted Thursday, September 28, 2006 at 9:04 pm | Permalink

    I’m one of teh skinnnies lol!

    Though this does makes me wonder something… how many wonderful people am I not meeting because they are more introverted because they are larger? Until I made an effort to notice lately I didn’t even focus on people’s size, it is what is inside that matters (and still does matter most to me.)

  6. Jaspenelle Stewart
    Posted Thursday, September 28, 2006 at 9:08 pm | Permalink

    I suppose it all comes down to the ideals our society is based on. The hourglass woman, the muscled man… You are right that we should not judge based on the book’s cover so-to-say.

    Though at the same time I know it is not healthy to be obese I hope that everyone who is makes an effort to work on getting healthier.

  7. anaknisatanas
    Posted Friday, September 29, 2006 at 11:44 am | Permalink

    Yoga rocks! I’ve only done it a few times though but I still love it.

    My mum is slightly obese but she’s not at all like that. Usually she’s pretty friendly and she’s very nice. However she’s also not had a weight problem her whole life, it happened mostly after having kids and then not really working the weight off.

  8. Eala
    Posted Saturday, September 30, 2006 at 5:39 pm | Permalink

    I am a large woman. I dont consider myself particularly mean, tho, like ANY woman, I have my bitchy moments. It is not more directed at thin folks, usually at my husband actually. In my personal experience, it was the skinny chicks that were more snotty and mean, but I cant even make that generalization, because its not fair. I myself do tend to be more shy and introverted, I do have self-esteem issues, but my size is not the only cause of this. And yes, it is possible to be a large mammal and still be healthy. People focus way, way, way too much on weight and proportion(its okay to be big as long as you are proportionate? a bit insulting to those of us who have large hips and small chests or something like that). Im personally tired of the diet/exercise/fashion trends that are constantly thrown in my face. Im sick of the attitude throughout society that I am not worthy because of my appearance, or because I dont work in the right kind of job. I have never been, nor probably never will be, known for my beauty, but I like to think I have a few things going for me. I do have those that love and accept me and actually LIKE my size. Being a giant doesnt make me a bitch, being a bitch makes me a bitch. Skinny or fat, bitch is bitch. I guess Ive never noticed the phenomenon myself, tho Im sure there are those women out there, who in their own insecurity, feel the need to “belittle” others, so to speak. When put on the defensive by an entire culture, well, sometimes, I cant blame them. Just my thoughts.
    Eala

  9. Jaspenelle Stewart
    Posted Saturday, September 30, 2006 at 6:31 pm | Permalink

    You are hardly an obese woman Eala – but I understand what you mean by society trying to force us towards these irrational ideals of beauty.

    I never said it was all obese woman who are bitchy – heck most of us are horrible at least a couple days a month. I suppose what is comes down to is those woman who are rejected by society (for example obese woman) feel attacked (rightfully) and become more defensive (or bitchy.)

    Hope that made sense, thanks for sharing your thoughts :)

  10. Lykaios
    Posted Thursday, October 5, 2006 at 7:21 pm | Permalink

    It’s really unfortunate that some people (big AND small) have a tendancy to be like this, and it really is quite saddening to think that you or I or anyone may not be meeting really cool people because of their insecurities (like you said). I think that’s what it could have been like if I had not met my boyfriend’s family. His sister is large, and the sweetest most genuine person I have ever met to date, and probably ever will, she’s just so painfully insecure and shy. Not the kind to go out on a limb ^^ She doesn’t like going anywhere by herself, which is unfortunate, because I really think she’s limiting herself from meeting new people. However, I can honestly say my life is better having met her.