Hurt

A woman said something to me when I was at the park with Damian this morning that really hurt. I was sitting down for a minute to catch my breath after a Braxton Hicks (false contraction) and some woman just came up to me and informed me that I should get up and chase him around to loose “all that extra weight you’re packing and set a healthy example.”

Maybe I just look fat rather then pregnant in the Winter coat but that is no reason for her to have said that! I am measuring exactly where I am suppose to for this pregnancy. How is what she said even remotely helpful? Was it suppose to motivating? So bizarre form of tough love? Was she just trying to randomly hurt the feelings of a stranger? She succeeded in that last one.

I don’t understand how people can be so heartless, I’ve never had someone be so out-of-the-blue cruel to me before. I was having such a shitty morning and went to the park because it makes me feel better and I feel she stole that from me, and I let her. I’m angry that I feel this way and that the only thing I could sputter out was “What the hell is wrong with you?” and she shrugged smiled and walked off, and I let her. I should have grabbed her and slapped her smug bitchy face, I should have stayed in the park rather then coming home and crying.

I hope she falls, breaks her neck, becomes bedridden, gains hundreds of pounds, dies alone and burns in Hell. And no, I can’t even find it in me to feel sorry for her right. I just… I’m so upset. I miss my mom, she would have killed her with a look.

11 Comments

  1. Zyleeth
    Posted Monday, November 9, 2009 at 11:12 am | Permalink

    ….What!? She must be a pretty miserable person, some people just feel like sharing their misery. The good thing is it never lasts forever for their victims, like it does for them. The important thing is that you are indeed healthy.

    Sorry, that’s just so amazingly random and asinine. I had to sit here and go O_o for a second.

  2. Posted Monday, November 9, 2009 at 11:15 am | Permalink

    *hugs* I’m sorry you’re hurting. People who are cruel have often been hurt themselves and are trying to make others feel like they do all the time. Feel good in the fact that you’re not like that, so the chain will break with you.
    Don’t wish her ill. It’ll rob you of the chance to stick your pregnant belly out at her in a few weeks and look very smug ;)

  3. Posted Monday, November 9, 2009 at 11:20 am | Permalink

    I think that is why I was speechless then sputtering out my response, it was so random and cruel! So random. Had I not been there I’d think it was some crazy dream or something.

  4. Miele
    Posted Monday, November 9, 2009 at 12:49 pm | Permalink

    You told her you were pregnant right? Cause at the very least that would have embarassed her.

  5. Miniar
    Posted Monday, November 9, 2009 at 12:58 pm | Permalink

    Well I would have yelled at her…

    But then, I remember when people walk up to me, when I’m having the one smoke I have a week, which I choose to have even if I’m fully aware of the potential consequences. So, there I am, comfortable in the evening sun, in a nice spot, having a nice smoke of my pipe, and some dipshit comes up to me with a snide comment about how it’s “bad” for me, or worse, walks by coughing… and I can’t help but to think to myself “why aren’t you making comments at that fat person across the street with the hamburger”…

    … so…

    yeah….

    I would have yelled at her…

  6. Posted Monday, November 9, 2009 at 3:46 pm | Permalink

    I’m agreeing with Rhomany – don’t wish her ill. That woman will probably end up as a miserable old fogey, possibly demented and immobile, and alone in a hospital room/nursing home somewhere.

  7. Posted Monday, November 9, 2009 at 4:10 pm | Permalink

    No, I only managed to sputter out “What the hell is wrong with you?” Of course now that it has been several hours and I am home I can think of a million better retorts…

  8. Posted Monday, November 9, 2009 at 4:11 pm | Permalink

    I don’t wish her ill. Okay, I DID when I typed that entry but now after a few hours… She is not worth that kind of mental effort. You are right, she’ll end up where the universe decides without my ill wishes. :-)

  9. Posted Monday, November 9, 2009 at 8:44 pm | Permalink

    Wow I’m so sorry Jaspy! I seriously CANNOT believe someone could be that cruel as to go up to some stranger without any knowledge of their history and say something like that.

    I also can’t believe that after you said “what the hell” that she just smiled and walked off. JUST SICK!!

    Don’t worry Jaspy she’ll get whats coming to her. *hugs* Hope you’re feeling much, much better!! <3

  10. Posted Tuesday, November 10, 2009 at 7:36 am | Permalink

    How horrible! I’m so sorry you had to deal with such a hateful, spiteful person. What a supermondomegabitch! And how shallow, narrow minded and petty must she be to think that’s an okay thing to say to someone? Unbelievable!

    Take care of yourself!

  11. Posted Wednesday, November 11, 2009 at 7:13 pm | Permalink

    Unfortunately, being someone who *is* fat and not pregnant, I can tell you that type of comment isn’t out of the ordinary. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told what I should or shouldn’t eat at a restaurant or how many times people have lectured me about exercise and diet. People just feel like they can say anything they want to fat people.

    *laughs with Miniar* It’s funny, but I hold my breath when passing someone who’s smoking so I won’t cough and make them feel bad. My dad was a chain smoker, and I know just how hard it is to quit. It drives me crazy when folks insist on telling us how to live our lives when they know *nothing* about us.